Speaking My Mind by Monica Brinkman


There comes a time in one’s life when they no longer can hold their tongue. It could be as a youth, discovering the workings of the world or a wife who no longer allows the beatings and tongue lashings from her once adoring husband. Be forewarned, for it shall happen and you will have the choice to quiver in fear or take a stand and speak up.

Today is my day, my time, my moment and I siege the opportunity with passion and vigor and purpose. Hate me? Fine. Detest my words? Good. Object to my opinion? Okay. For I do not worry about what you think of me, nor if you condone my actions, nor will you when the moment appears in your life.

What propels me with such passion? It is Fear! I am weary of living within its grasp. I am tired of it hovering over my head, my every thought, my every choice, my every opinion for lest I annoy, anger or upset another.

Cities, states, countries and the world’s inhabitants live in such deep alarm of what could happen to them if they let their true thoughts out. What would their ministers, their rabbis, their neighbors, their supervisors, their friends, and family think of them, or even worse, do to them should they allow truth to leak out? Oh, for horror above horror, they would certainly be struck down by lightening or silenced for life; their tongue torn from their mouths. Or certainly shunned by the town and cast out as an evil demon into the darkness of the night.

All dramatizations aside, in the real world, their voice would be heard. Perhaps a few would pass judgment, some would agree, but most would merely listen and go on with their lives. The seas would not part nor the earth, underfoot, give way. You see, no matter what you might like or think, the entire world does not revolve around you as an individual. You are simply not that important to others no matter how much you may wish to be so.

What is important is that each one of us can voice our opinions, speak our mind without living in fear of consequence. After all, when one speaks it is how they are feeling at that exact moment in time. They may or may not feel the same way in the next minute, hour, day or year. For we evolve, we learn and we change per our experiences in life. And it is grand and it is good and it is how it should be. Yet so many continue to hide their thoughts and shut out communication. I ask you, who do this, to toss away the fear, for that fear lives within your own mind.

In the end, we can only be the person we have become, the thoughts we have embraced and the actions that we choose. Me? I’d have it no other way. I invite all of you to toss that fear aside and allow all to experience the real person behind the façade; the truth of essence and the force of your personality. Please, be yourself; let others in and you will find great joy as the fear, once so vivid, ebbs into a faint memory. You might even find others adore the real you.

Bio: Monica M Brinkman believes in ‘giving it forward’; reflected by her writing and radio show. A firm believer open communication is the most powerful tool to make positive change in the world; she expresses this in her books, The Turn of the Karmic Wheel, The Wheels Final Turn and in her weekly broadcast of It Matters Radio.

An avid writer, named a true storyteller, she has been published in several anthologies and wrote a weekly column for over two years at Authorsinfo. Her works can be found at various sites throughout the internet. Visit her blog @ http://itmattersradio.wix.com/on-the-brink

Monica resides in the Midwest with her husband, two dogs and five cats.

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10 thoughts on “Speaking My Mind by Monica Brinkman

  1. Trish

    Great advice, Monica. I like the part where you point out that people don’t really care what you say after a little while–we’re not that important to others.

  2. James L. Secor

    Nice sentiments but I think that most people will not opine. . .probably in the name of some imagined fear. Most of the fear we’ve been living with is manufactured, it is propaganda. . .and with the entrance into Trumpkinland only becomes more possible (more probable?). We are so inured to fear that we cannot manage, I think, to frame a relationship with the outside world, even if it’s just our neighborhood, without raising up its hoary head. The 3 million women around the world who marched after the inauguration. . .will they continue to speak out or work from the point of safety in numbers? It is very difficult to speak out, especially if it is, for lack of a better word, anti-status quo because we become, we are taught, marked. Boat rockers. Trouble makers.

  3. Monica Brinkman

    Well, James, from my point of view, I feel to overcome such great obstacles we must always come from a point of positive thought and action as well as love. And yes, people shall continue to speak out.

  4. John Rosenman

    Bravo! I agree with you, Monica. You reach a point in your life where you lose your hair and there is much more time behind you than there is ahead. If getting old or older has any perqs, it should be that you should jettison fear and speak your mind, let the chips fall where they may. You know, earlier a member of our group contributed a post that sharply divided our readers. At least one member said that we shouldn’t publish posts that offend readers. Well, I think that sometimes people should be offended, shaken out of their complacency and presented with an alternate view, even if it seems obscene and blasphemous.

    Dylan Thomas wrote that “old age should rage against the dying of the light.” Yes, it should FREE us to express ourselves and take chances. As you note, often people won’t care anyway. And if they do care, and are offended, well, tough titty.

    To get political, being outspoken is especially needed in this political climate. President Bannon — oops, I mean President Trump — has made it clear that the liberal press is stupid and ought to listen and keep their mouth shut. Well, screw him and the fascist horse he rode in on. I don’t think we should pop off all the time, but all too often we take diplomacy too far and remain silent.

    There are exceptions to being candid and outspoken. For example, when political or religious issues are involved, I often find it prudent to save time and just walk away. Some fools just won’t listen and you can never reach them. You have to exercise some common sense.

    Sorry to run on so long. It’s a great essay, Monica, and deserves a large audience.

  5. Micki Peluso

    Good essay, Monica! I wrote an opinion when it first came out but the tablet seemed to disagree with it and it wouldn’t send. So this will be shorter and more to the point. I think that when younger and out to change the world we had more of a tendency to ‘speak our minds’ often in righteous indignation. Now as I grow older I have come to recognize more fully the power of words and the damage they can bestow on a troubled world. Even as I tell my children and grandchildren to ‘think before they act’ so too must we, if we are to make correct choices and not cause unnecessary riots and hatred in the world, as adults, need to ‘think before we speak.’

    1. Monica Brinkman

      Yes, we do need to think, but again, to do nothing an remain silent condones what you feel is not right. And I find the older I get, the more I speak up because I just don’t care anymore if someone likes me because of my point of view. It is more important for people to speak up than remain silent and fearful.


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