One Way, and twenty-one are two of those proverbial signs in our lives.
For sure it is one way that we go in this life, and that is through it. And we should enjoy it as we go. All too often we are in a hurry and rush this life along and don’t take the proverbial time out to smell the flowers along the way. Life too is changing, and it seems like you should be born with all you need to know as soon as you leave the womb and take your first breath.
That magical number of twenty-one is when you are “grown”. You can find all types of statistics that go along with that magical age. Such as, how old you have to be to work or get married. At what age can you legally drink, or join the armed forces. The truth is this, that all of the factors can change depending upon the demographics of where in the world you are.
In that there are truly enough discussions about these things, I want to take this time and opportunity to talk about simply taking care of yourself. The truth be told, no matter where we are in the world, we are all alike and need to really stop and take the time out to care for ourselves. I mean our whole selves. Which means, that we need to take care of all of us; mind, body, and soul. And to put that in some plainer language, wearing those big drawers and shoes takes some skills!! Seems like you can, when you look at others as they go through life. Somehow, when they were in the position of whatever it is that you find yourself now in, they made it look so easy.
But we are not born “grown” and we do have those different times of growth and development that we must needs to go through. And it should be chronological, but sometimes not!!! We are grown way before our time, sometimes, and not “grown” enough when we need to be at others. Too begin with, we must take an account of where we are in life and enjoy that station, in life. Learn everything you can as you go. Even those things that look like you don’t need them, you do! Put those in a pocket somewhere. Lord only knows the time when you will need to whip them out and use them.
Sometimes, you just have to take the time and remember who you are. You are somebody and be careful with you, please. You do have the right to live this life out by your own standards of who you say you are, within rules/laws of course. You do not have to live up to everyone’s expectations. There is an old cliché,” Straws can break camels’ backs!” I want to say here, that straws can & do break camels backs.
I wish such straws as mentioned above came with sign posts, but they don’t. So make sure that whatever it is that you do resonates with all of you. It is true we will all have regrets, of one kind or another. Especially so if you have hit this life from the perspective of being twenty-one and no one can tell me anything. I just hope that the proverbial sign posts in your life don’t change when you look back to regret, and remorse.
There are those times in your life when you will get to those places in life where nobody knows your name!!! I am one who knows! Yes, quick to leave home, I was. I stayed away from home too, because I did not want to hear those dreadful words, “I told you so!” Happy!! Yes, I am going to where nobody knows my name! Only to have those same words to become haunting words. “Nobody Knows My Name!” Because they were true! Nobody did know my name and I was suddenly in a place where I was so all alone!
Come back to that place, “Where Everybody Knows Your Name”, even you!!
You are you first and foremost before anything else happened in your life; the job, the wife/husband, the children, the move, or God forbid , the permanence of a death in your life.
Look back and see you or someone familiar to you and how they did. Learn from the experience of someone else. You really don’t have to experience something to learn a lesson. You may have to reach back for some of those old songs to help you get through, like Bill Withers’ Grandma’s Hand -
or Dianne Reeves’ Better Days
And hear some other advice I learned along the way through here, “It is a great life if you just don’t weaken!” From my mom, of all people – Margaret Bullard-Bess- God Rest her soul. Just keep swimming too, I heard that from a little blue fish!!!
Louise Malbon-Reddix – Author of:
Stand In Your Anointment – This Too Shall Pass!
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