The Proverbial Sign Posts of Life by Louise Malbon-Reddix

One Way, and twenty-one  are two of those proverbial signs in our lives.

For sure it is one way that we go in this life, and that is through it.  And we should enjoy it as we go.  All too often we are in a hurry and rush this life along and don’t take the proverbial time out to smell the flowers along the way. Life too is changing, and it seems like you should be born with all you need to know as soon as you leave the womb and take your first breath.

That magical number of twenty-one is when you are  “grown”. You can find all types of statistics that go along with that magical age.  Such as, how old you have to be to work or get married.  At what age can you legally drink, or join the armed forces. The truth is this, that all of the factors can change depending upon the demographics of where in the world you are.

In that there are truly enough discussions about these things, I want to take this time and opportunity to talk about simply taking care of yourself.  The truth be told, no matter where we are in the world, we are all alike and need to really stop and  take the time out  to care for ourselves.  I mean our whole selves. Which means, that we need to take care of all of us; mind, body, and soul.  And to put that in some plainer language, wearing those big drawers and shoes takes some skills!!  Seems like you can, when you look at others as they go through life. Somehow, when they were in the position of whatever it is that you find yourself now in, they made it look so easy.

But we are not born “grown” and we do have those different times of growth and development that we must needs to go through.  And it should be chronological, but sometimes not!!!  We are grown way before our time, sometimes, and not “grown” enough when we need to be at others. Too begin with, we must take an account of where we are in life and enjoy that station, in life. Learn everything you can as you go.  Even those things that look like you don’t need them, you do!  Put those in a pocket somewhere.  Lord only knows the time when you will need to whip them out and use them.

Sometimes, you just have to take the time and remember who you are. You are somebody and be careful with you, please. You do have the right to live this life out by your own standards of who you say you are, within rules/laws of course. You do not have to live up to everyone’s expectations. There is an old cliché,” Straws can break camels’ backs!”  I want to say here, that straws can & do break camels backs.

I wish such straws as mentioned above came with sign posts, but they don’t.   So make sure that whatever it is that you do resonates with all of you. It is true we will all have regrets, of one kind or another. Especially so if  you have hit this life from the perspective of being twenty-one and no one can tell me anything.  I just hope that the proverbial sign posts in your life don’t change when you look back to regret, and remorse.

There  are those times in your life when you will get to those places in life where nobody knows your name!!!  I am one who knows! Yes, quick to leave home, I was.  I stayed away from home too, because I did not want to hear those dreadful words, “I told you so!”  Happy!! Yes, I am going to where nobody knows my name!  Only to have those same words to become haunting words. “Nobody Knows My Name!” Because they were true!  Nobody did know my name and I was suddenly in a place where I was so all alone!

Come back to that place, “Where Everybody Knows Your Name”, even you!!

You are you first and foremost before anything else happened in your life; the job, the wife/husband, the children, the move, or God forbid , the permanence of a death in your life.

Look back and see you or someone familiar to you and how they did. Learn from the experience of someone else. You really don’t have to experience something to learn a lesson. You may have to reach back for some of those old songs to help you get through, like Bill Withers’  Grandma’s Hand -

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qv5pagal-ls,

or Dianne Reeves’ Better Days

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlFj9iCnaIE.

And hear some other advice I learned along the way through here, “It is a great life if you just don’t weaken!” From my mom, of all people – Margaret Bullard-Bess- God Rest her soul.  Just keep swimming too, I heard that from a little blue fish!!!

 

Louise Malbon-Reddix – Author of:

Stand In Your Anointment – This Too Shall Pass!

Book Trailer Too!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WfOUVQFaxU0

Where to buy the book

http://www.amazon.com/Rev.-Louise-Malbon-Reddix-MPC-RN-CCRN/e/B009OU5ZR0

Also at Barnes & Noble’s or your favorite book store too!!!

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26 thoughts on “The Proverbial Sign Posts of Life by Louise Malbon-Reddix

  1. Kenneth Weene

    Life is, unless you are The Doctor, a one way street, but we do have options along the way, such as stopping smoking or starting to go to a gym, options which allow us to at least back up a little.

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    1. Salvatore Buttaci

      Great advice! Learn from the mistakes of others. It doesn’t make sense that we must stumble when someone we know offers us a hand and counsels us about avoiding life’s stones. A helpful article indeed!

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      1. Louise Malbon-Reddix

        Sal, Yes for true!!! An old African proverbs comes to mind; “I see far because I stand on the shoulders of many!!!

        Louise

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    2. Louise Malbon-Reddix

      Ken, I like how you said that. Another way to think about things, ways to help ourselves out!
      Louise

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  2. Trish Jackson

    So many of us don’t stop to smell the roses, and although we might take care of our bodies by eating right and exercising, a healthy body without a healthy mind and spirit is not complete. As we age, we find out how important our physical health is, but many of us allow ourselves to be stressed and do not heed the little messages of warning that life sends us. Thank you for this reminder.

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  3. Louise Malbon-Reddix

    Trish,

    I am with you, youth sometimes is so wasted on the young!!! Wish I knew thaen what I know now!!!
    Louise

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  4. Sharon Clark Chang

    Taking care of your WHOLE requires learning where your strength comes from–and about the fact that you draw that strength in the various areas of life from various things. It’s a good lesson, all right–and one that, in itself, requires paying some attention to self.

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    1. Louise Malbon-Reddix

      Ms. Sharon, Thank you and you are so right too! It does require paying a little attention to yourself!
      Louise

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  5. Yves Johnson

    I especially like, “Come back to that place, “Where Everybody Knows Your Name”, even you!!” I imagine we all go through this sort of thing. I like to look back and see where I’ve been as I look forward to where I’m going. I guess that goes with your point of being able to “whip them out.”

    As far as those two markers…I’m a little past those but that doesn’t mean I’m not looking forward to those new markers.

    I used to tell our children that “A bought lesson is some times better than a taught lesson.” So, I agree with you. We should learn through others and their experiences.

    Thanks for the great story.

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    1. Louise Malbon-Reddix

      Yves, Thank you for the comment and Yes Sir, I can get with that bought lesson thing there!!!

      Louise

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  6. James L. Secor

    If you stay where everyone knows you, what do you learn?
    When is it we decide to stop and take it all in? Certainly not an activity for childhood or teenage yrs or, even, twenties. Those times, we are too busy doing it to stop and think about it–and this is a very positive behavior. The salience is to keep on doing while, at the same time, thinking about “it all.” Like an actor on stage who is doing his role and also is watching himself doing his role and seeing himself as the audience sees him and seein himself in relation to the other actors/characters and, then, managing that most ridiculously difficult thing called improvisation. We ARE indestructible as children, teens and even twenty-somethings. If not, we’d not be able to live, live life. Placing a judgment on these of younger years robs them of life and imposes our own biases. I shudder to think that any one of us would inform in strong tones the youth that they are on a one way journey to death. But this is the truth, no? From conception on, we are marching toward death. Even now, at 66 and having died once, I live as if there is no tomorrow, to coin a phrase, yet know that, in the end, there is only death staring me in the face. We are all, it appears, not young any more (chronologically); we should not limit youth and growth. Unless I miss the entire point of this discussion.
    So, sorry, though it has not been easy living much of my life amongst people who do not know me, now that I’m back where people know me, I find there is, indeed, no one who knows me. I should be home, right?

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    1. Louise Malbon-Reddix

      James, I am trying to catch up with you and take this all in! Where in the world are you? Would love to sit down and take notes!!! Thank You though for the comment!

      Louise

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  7. Marta Merajver-Kurlat

    What a positive piece, Louise. I wish I could adopt it as a guideline, but life has taught me that we do not learn from other people’s mistakes -”that’s not going to happen to ME; I’m far smarter”- but of course it does happen, just as some people will never grow up regardless of age. I am also convinced that no one really knows us, beginning by ourselves. We strive long and hard to gain some knowledge of our basic wiring, yet many remain in the dark, or we would not find ourselves wondering why we do, say, or take things that baffle us. As for others knowing us, or us knowing them, it would be necessary to have the whole picture of, at least, what people think they are. Is there anyone who volunteers such picture?

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    1. Louise Malbon-Reddix

      Ms. Marta, I think that through life, we have small moments of clarity as to who we think we are. I just hope it is not through the pain of having to have learned a lesson the hard way as they say!!!
      Thank you for the comment!!!
      Louise

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  8. Micki Peluso

    I believe babies are born knowing everything and then having it taught out of them as they grow. I learned my life lessons from living–some were hard, some were not, but all made me who I am today. True, I didn’t expect ‘today’ to get here so fast and I never saw catastropic illness in my once perfect body; but this is yet another life lesson. The most important life lesson I learned was to forgive, no matter how heinous the offense. Thanks for a great aticle, Louise.

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    1. Louise Malbon-Reddix

      Micki, so true! Growing up in this life, you have to conform to so many things in order to just get along!!! And yes, Forgiveness~~~~

      Louise

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  9. linniescorner

    It seems to me that we are born with perfect soul knowledge with the inability to express it and than set about life learning to express it in a worldly way. By the time we’re done, we have learned some of it well and much of it not well at all. We can only hope that our soul remains perfect and richer for the experience. This journey does indeed have a purpose and we are to make it the grandest experience that we can possibly imagine.

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    1. Louise Malbon-Reddix

      Linniescorner, I so agree with you!!! It should be the grandest experience! Thank You so much for taking the time to read it!!

      Louise

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  10. Sharla

    We all learn from this thing called life, or we are suppose to anyway. There are NO guarantees, except we will go through life and one day die. The amount of time we spend on this earth is not foretold. This is a wonderful post, Louise! Sharing it everywhere I can :-)

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    1. Louise Malbon-Reddix

      Ms. Sharla,

      And for true, at least we are supposed too! And in one way or another we do, thank goodness too! I thank You so much for sharing!

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